While doing a warm-up for one of my classes last week, we discussed the Latin roots mitt, miss, and mise (meaning lead, bring, draw).
Students had to match words with these roots to their correct meaning. One of the definitions was "to yield control". The matching word: submit.
I had one of those little epiphanies. When I submit a piece for consideration (even a query letter), I'm yielding control. For some reason, I felt a sense of peace after this revelation. (May has been a rough month for rejections). My work needs to be done before I submit; after that moment, the story is in someone else's hands.
Giving up control can be quite freeing.